How To Overcome Limiting Beliefs To Fully Live Your Life
When you believe something to be right, chances are the conviction was formed out of logic, right? Actually, this is not the way in which beliefs develop; you don’t need evidence to have a belief in something. If that were the case, you could say that a person you don’t know looking at you is evidence of you being boring.
The first thing you have is a belief, which is when you start looking for evidence to support the belief. This then leads to twisting facts, so they become evidence.
Since this isn’t how beliefs are created, it’s safe to ask where and how beliefs come about.
Beliefs are the result of one thing – to avoid pain and experience pleasure. For instance, believing that something isn’t possible for you to do may be your way to avoid the pain that comes from failing. With that belief in mind, you begin to look for evidence that will support it. When your mind fails to find any evidence, it will create them instead by twisting things in their favor.
That’s what we call “Limiting beliefs”.
Beliefs Are Just Your Perception Of Reality
In this video you will see a perfect exemple of a limiting beliefs in action.
Your limiting beliefs began small – a minor interpretation of a perceived reality due to something happening to you or around you. You look at the event through the experiences you’ve had already in your life “things you know” and then construe them in a view that works for you.
It may make sense to you at the time, and it’s only solidified when something else happens to reaffirm the first instance. With more and more instances such as these, it only reconfirms what you think you know. It creates a shape of belief. The more confirmed that belief is, the stronger it will become.
Your Belief Will Become A Part Of Your Subconscious
It won’t be long before the belief becomes a part of who you are that you’ll no longer think about it. It becomes part of the subconscious belief system. Think of the human brain as a computer. It starts with the most common task to confirm the belief in conjunction with others already in the system. Whatever a person believes, the brain confirms it repeatedly.
The way nature has allowed the brain to work; the brain can prevent insecure feelings. The more solid the beliefs it has, the better of a person will be against the world.
The brain will choose ways in which to confirm a belief. It subconsciously looks at and interprets information that confirms what a person believes. Anything else that contradicts this will be ignored. These beliefs come together and give people their point of view of how the world is. This means your view of the world will differ from your best friend.
Your Beliefs Can Limit You
As your beliefs become more part of you, they can hinder you from being more than you can be. Any beliefs you have in childhood can carry on with you into adulthood. And, some beliefs you attain later in life – some of these will hinder you from being able to enjoy new things in your life, take part in events going on or even keep you from taking the next leap in life (despite the clear road).
What Can You Do?
If you want to overcome these limiting beliefs, there are four things you must do:
- Recognize what the beliefs are
- Question them
- Come up with a replacement belief
- Enforce and reaffirm the belief
It’s important to understand that you can change just one belief at a time. Trying to change them all simultaneously will cause your body to shut down and go into crisis mode. Focus on just one belief. When you manage to successfully overcome it, focus on another belief to change it.
So, how can you change these limiting beliefs?
2 Key Ways To Destroy Fallible Beliefs
There are two ways in which you can incorporate a belief with the evidence that will support, but first, you must get rid of any belief that has no supporting evidence behind it.
1: Challenge The Belief Itself
One way to do this is to challenge the evidence. How so? You must question beliefs and create the doubt that the evidence doesn’t support the belief you’re trying to eliminate.
For example, if a person thinks they are boring, they should be questioning that belief. Did someone tell them they are boring? What evidence do they have that support this theory? Were they obtained properly?
This is the way a belief changes. You question it repeatedly! The stronger the belief is, the more questioning you will have to do. By constant questioning of this belief, you can destroy it. For example, if you the evidence you had from a stranger’s glance was that you were boring, by challenging it, you limit the belief, and it eventually becomes non-existent.
2: Tie It To Pain
Another unique way in which to change your beliefs is to tie it back to some type of pain. Remember, beliefs relate someway to pain. When you tie it back to pain, you realize the damage it’s doing to you. You can steer clear of the belief and eventually it’s gone.
To your success,